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Forgiveness Can Help Repair Relationships

There is an old and famous saying “To err is human, to forgive divine”. This old saying is certainly true even today for all relationships. When two or more two individuals and groups interact with one another and have a certain amount of trust and expectations is called “a relationship”. In a relationship, mistakes are inevitable which cause anger, frustration, resentment, guilt, betrayal, disappointment, or hate for the partner ending up threatening the self-respect and continuity of the relationship. We often find ourselves stuck at the crossroads of whether to forgive or walk out of the relationship. It’s incredibly hard to forgive someone whose actions or words have inflicted pain within. Sometimes we want them to experience the pain they have caused us and we are tempted to make them feel guilty about their actions till the time we feel better. Yes, sometimes this trick works but other times it doesn’t. Hence forgiveness comes into the picture. 

Forgiveness is mostly needed in intimate couples — people who love each other and yet struggle to stay together or keep their love alive. There is numerous amount of data that states that forgiveness is a significant contributor to a healthy relationship.  The act of forgiveness is immensely powerful, bold, and humbling.


What is Forgiveness?

Psychologists generally define forgiveness as a conscious, deliberate decision to release feelings of resentment or vengeance toward a person or group who has harmed you. Forgiveness is the intentional and voluntary process by which a victim undergoes a change in feelings and attitude regarding an offense. There is a famous quote that says “ Holding on to resentment is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die”. Forgiveness is not stuffing up emotions but communicating the same to the other. You forgive not only to save your drowning relationship but to also attain peace of mind. Forgiveness heals the heart and helps you move on happily. 

Humans are flawed which makes you and your partner equally capable of making mistakes. Isn’t it? 


In this world nobody is perfect & everybody is born with some shortcomings. Though love is the basis of all relationships that is not enough. Each of us is hurt, defended, flawed, and inevitably. But if you don’t forgive, it will result in a lot of mental chaos, frictions, anger, endless hatred resulting in ugly fights, breakups & divorce. Forgiveness doesn’t mean letting your loved one walk over you. It’s about letting them know that their actions caused hurt, increasing unbiased understanding of what went wrong, and discussing what needs to be done to resolve it. The presence of forgiveness gives a lot of relief and mental peace and helps in the continuity of relationships. This act of forgiveness makes a person more happy, peaceful, mature, and divine.


Why should you Forgive?

  • Plays an important part in nurturing and repairing the relations.

  • It helps in the continuity and longevity of a relation.

  • It allows the significant other to have space to be themselves

  • Forgiveness plays the role of ointments to wounds. It plays an important part in nurturing and repairing relations.

  • It increases communication and deepens the understanding between couples and relations.

  • Saves couples from total loss.

  • Couples who practice forgiveness have more ability to compromise or resolve issues.

  • Couples who forgive are happier and healthier than those who hold resentments.

  • The more a relationship is characterized by kindness and forgiveness, the higher the relationship satisfaction.

  • Holding on to grudges brings anxiety and insecurities in every aspect of your relationship. Letting go and forgiving can help you lay a strong foundation of loving and a trustful relationship.

  • Forgiving someone gives you control of your life.

Relationships are challenging and it is really hard to forgive and forget but not impossible. This skill you can learn like any other skill. You can consult psychologists who can help people navigate through difficult times in a relationship to get both partners to deal with their conflict in a more positive and healthy manner. However, if you are in an abusive or violent relationship instead of forgiving, you may plan to exit that relationship as soon as possible.


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