Looking for a Perfect Relationship?

Usually, women dream for a tall, dark, handsome, caring, loving, funny partner. They look for for a perfect man who fulfills every economic, social, emotional and spiritual need, the man comes home on time, never drinks, never cheats, never flirts, cleans after himself, remembers everything (birthdays, anniversaries, etc), cooks for you, buys flowers-occasionally, and will always be there for you. For a man the partner should be beautiful, pure, dutiful, earning, caring, soft, sweet, delicate, obedient, adjusting, family-oriented and many more. Our ideal partner differs from one another. Both look for Mr. Perfect and Ms. Perfect.

The greatest irony of a human being is that we search perfection in all relationships when we ourselves are imperfect beings. There is no such thing as a perfect relationship. A perfect relationship is one where “You live and let live, understanding is deep, and you respect the other person’s individuality.”

Guidelines to have a Great and not Perfect Relationship.

  • Acceptance of each other as they are with their merits and demerits as well. Digest well the fact that nobody is perfect including you. If you have this ghost of Perfection in your head, you won't be able to accept the imperfection in your partner.
     

  • Love and trust. Be it a parent-child relationship, a friendship between two people, or a couple… the key to a successful relationship is to build love and trust. Work at trust and this will lead to a situation where a child can confide in a parent and a partner can easily talk about having had dinner with a man or woman without any fear. In a relationship, love must run deep such that even a thought of the person will bring a smile to your lips and heart.
     

  • Reciprocity is the lifeline of every relationship. There is nothing like unconditional love. You have to nurture it.
     

  • Understanding. When two individuals from different worlds and backgrounds decide to come together, friction conflict has to happen. Appreciate differences. Believe in the policy of agreeing to disagree.
     

  • Sharing of responsibilities. Both men and women must share the responsibilities inside and outside the home.
     

  • Compromise and Adjustment are an active and perpetual ingredient in perfect relationships
     

  • Respect each person as an individual and allow them personal space. Never compare your partner with anyone. Two people in a healthy relationship admire each other as individuals, which allows them to treat each other with respect. When you have respect for someone, it is easier to be kind, considerate, patient, and hold them in high regard. relationship!
     

  • Patience, tolerance and forgiveness are the cornerstones of a great relationship. Work with your partner on any flaws that may be present in your relationship. Ignore the standards of an ideal relationship set up by society.
     

  • Sense of team and togetherness working for a common goal- Happy and Peaceful Life. Be together in tough times. It’s the tough times that bring people closer together and make the relationship stronger than ever.
     

  • Keep pace with the dynamism of relationship. It is not static. You constantly need to keep working in a relationship to make it everything you want it to be and to make it last. It starts with physical and ends in spiritual.
     

  • They argue well and they Nip Things in The Bud quickly. In a perfect relationship, there are no punching walls, throwing things, or calling each other names. There is no attacking or blaming. Instead, they stay calm, talk things through, avoid saying or doing hurtful things, they communicate well, which means they share their opinions and listen to their partners without judgement. They don’t want others to see that they have problems, it’s just that their arguments are personal and none of anybody else’s business.
     

  • They care for Each Other’s Happiness. People who are selfish in a relationship have a lot of problems. A relationship where each person is looking out for themselves is going to be full of arguments, stress, and anger. In a seemingly perfect relationship, both take into account each other’s feelings and needs.
     

  • Honesty. They may not tell each other all of their thoughts but at least they are honest with their partner about what they need out of the relationship and how they choose to live their lives, where do they go, how did they spend the day etc.
     

  • Share Interests. There are many relationships where the two individuals are so different – or have grown so far apart, that they literally don’t want to do anything together. A perfect relationship may have two people with a few different interests, but there are many things they enjoy doing together and they make sure to participate in those interests often as a way to strengthen their bond.
     

  • Work on Their Love People in a perfect relationship takes the time to do things that nurture their love, such as giving compliments, sharing life lessons, laughing with each other, cuddling, holding hands, being kind, and romancing each other.
     

  • Attracted To each other A perfect relationship contains two people who are attracted to each other and keep that attraction alive through various means. They keep the fire burning.
     

  • Supportive of each other. The one person who should support you through life, besides yourself, is your intimate partner. They should be on your team and encourage you to become the person you want to be. There will be sacrifices made to help their partner achieve something
     

  • They Make Each Other A Priority We all have priorities in life, and it’s important to maintain them. In a healthy relationship, before their job, friends, and hobbies, their partner is their priority. If their partner needs something – time, love, support – they are willing to give it to them. They don’t spend time hanging out with their friends and having a blast if their partner is going through a hard time. They think of their partner first and do what they need to do for them.
     

  • Trust Each Other A perfect relationship isn’t full of doubt and jealousy. Therefore, they don’t jump to conclusions about things. They don’t grill their partner on where they were and why they were a few minutes late. And, they can leave their partner for a week’s vacation and not worry about what is going on. The trust isn’t forced or hard, it’s just there, and suspicion is not even thought about.
     

  • Don’t Have Secrets One reason they trust each other so much is that they don’t have secrets. They are honest with each other about who they are and what they’ve done through the day, and so there is never any inconsistencies in their stories to cause suspicion or mistrust. That’s the beauty of sharing your life with someone else
     

  •  Make Each Other Better A perfect relationship contains two people who take the time to make each other feel better. In sickness, they work to make the other person as comfortable as possible and even take on their chores or other daily duties. In times of struggle, they help their partner out in any way they can. And, when their partner needs to talk or a shoulder to cry on, they are there.
     

  • Comfortable with each other Being at ease with someone is a feeling that helps keep a relationship happy and intact. A perfect relationship has two people who enjoy coming back to each other at the end of the day and feel like they can be themselves with their partner whenever they are around them. They don’t have to pretend to be someone else. They don’t have to put on their best attitude and be perfect. They can be whom they are trusting their partner accepts that and won’t make them feel bad.
     

  • The Freedom to spend time alone A perfect relationship is not about being together all of the time, the fact is as two people are individuals, they are going to need time to do individual things for their physical, mental and spiritual well-being, and if they don’t get it, then they are going to feel unfilled and unhappy on some level.
     

  • Sense of equality One person should never be another person’s slave or inferior in a relationship. That promotes feelings of anger, resentment, and unhappiness, which makes a relationship suck. A perfect relationship contains two people who see each other as equals.
     

  • They play with each other Being playful with each other is a way to strengthen your bond. It can also help you make each other laugh. One of the top attractive qualities for both men and women is a sense of humor, so it is an extremely attractive trait to have in your relationship!
     

  • They Admit When They Are Wrong Both don’t take time to accept their mistakes and to pardon them.

 

In short, there is no uniform method to make a relationship great. Everyone is so genetically different that no single rule applicable to all. Happy relationships are not made in heaven instead one has to nurture it. This requires a lot of introspection and analysis There should be an honest determination to make your life happy and successful. The perfect relationship doesn’t mean that they’ve never had any disputes of any sort they never had relationship troubles, any angry voice, instead of in a perfect relationship all differences, disputes, conflicts are so well handled with the tools of tolerance, patience, forgiveness and mutual respect. They learn the art of “Agree to Disagree”.

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