Before saying yes to others, make sure you are not saying no to yourself.
How many times in a day one says yes to others and no to yourself?
How many times you heard yourself responding with a yes to the things that are not good for you, things that may have sabotaged your life?
Have you been thinking too much about others lately?
Do you constantly seek the approval of others?
Well, if yes, then we all are on the same page titled “TIPS TO PLEASE OTHERS”!!!
At times in my life, we struggle with the fact that we care too much about others happiness, putting others needs and concerns before mine. Well, this is what we have been taught since the day we are born, which is fine. This is also the beginning when we start to lose our sense of worth and authenticity. Don’t you think? We all get caught up in these worldly affairs. There is a constant need to please others and when we try too hard to please someone else, we lose our identity. We all have some responsibilities in life, maintaining relationships with your family and friends, trying to fit in the society, trying to please your boss and so on. At the end of all this toiling, it becomes difficult to say yes to yourself. Being on this hamster wheel is exhausting and drains out a lot of energy. It takes a toll on your physical and mental health. We give up our wishes and desires in exchange for doing what makes other people happy. Don't you feel saying that yes to others is safer and a convenient option?
But how hard it can be to say a simple “no” to a thing we don’t wish to do.?
We are not supposed to feel this every day. With time, one should discern that it is better to choose a temporary discomfort over long-term resentment. Initially taking a firm stand for yourself might feel difficult, but by being calm, clear and direct one can create a balance between your needs and want with that of others.
Putting yourself first is not selfish, thinking about yourself constantly is selfish. Far from being selfish and mean, setting limits is a healthy act of self-respect. In an airplane, we are told to put on your own oxygen mask before helping those around, similarly in life in order to give value and help others you must have value to give in the first place. It’s simple, we can’t serve from an empty vessel.
From your busy day, try to give time to yourself- “ME TIME”. Recharge your “self” with things you want to do for yourself, what matters to you and explore where your happiness lies.
Be authentic to yourself, start saying yes to your heart. Have the courage to design your life and do things that bring your real joy, pleasure, and happiness. The happiest person is the one who brings forth the higher and best in himself.
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