Confidence is not that they will like me, confidence is that you will be fine if they don't.

Self-confidence is the belief in one’s own skills, goals and ability to succeed. A confident person doesn’t think what others think of him/her, tries everything in full capacity. Confident individuals set the bar high, aim high and try new things. They have the ability to stand up for one’s beliefs and values. They Believe in success. Confident people are 24% more likely to overcome challenges at work. They perform better than their less-confident peer.

 Living with low self-esteem and confidence can harm mental health, leading to problems like depression and anxiety. The lack of confidence affects the ability to reach full potential.

If you feel low confidence you may indulge in-

  • You socially withdraw yourself or hide away from social situations. Hesitant to meet any new person

  • You are unwilling to take on challenges, have fears of failure, fear of the unknown

  • Don't speak up in a group conversation. They are afraid what other’s think

  •  Need approval, validations for small things

  •  Don't trust their own judgment.

  •  Rely on your phone in social situations.

  • Always back down during disagreements.

  • Take constructive criticism personally.

  • Blame others.

  • Make excuses.

  • Use defensive body language. like crossing arms or giving a stern facial expression, sweating face

  • They are a pessimist. Afraid of the future

  • They are ashamed.

  • Apologize easily

  • Avoid eye contact.

  • They have anxiety and emotional turmoil.

  • They are unable to accept compliments.

  • They neglect themselves. Indulge in negative self-talk

  • If someone else looks directly in the eye they feel uncomfortable.

  • They looking around or down at feet. you aren't comfortable or confident in the situation.

  • They have self-deprecating humor.

Causes

  • Unhappy childhood where parents or teachers, classmates were extremely critical of poor academic performance, personality, nature, habits etc. They don’t feel loved and appreciated

  • Appearance, image issues.

  • Abuse

  • Career Issues

  • Lack of Confidence at Work

  • Peer pressure

  • Sibling rivalry or comparison

  • Not able to meet social standards of a successful person like- high qualification, high salary, a job in a reputed company, happy married life etc.

 

How to Overcome Low Confidence

Confidence isn’t an accident. On the contrary, it has to be cultivated over a period of time. You might not see results immediately, but the longer you practice, the more you’re going to gain confidence.

Confidence can be inculcated through small practices throughout life. We can rewire our brain with focus and intention and genuine efforts. And although our fears and limiting beliefs won’t completely disappear, over time they lose their power over our daily thoughts and actions.

Here are few ways through which you can boost up your self-confidence-

  • Practice Personal Grooming

Take the time every morning to properly groom yourself and look presentable for the day. It is surprising how much of a difference it can make when you feel like you look your best. You can also dress nicely so your clothes look presentable and appropriate for whatever you are doing that day. Appearing confident can help us get on better in our lives. If required do a personal grooming course.

  • Change your thinking patterns. Be Positive

It is also important to think positive. Replace your negative thoughts with positive ones by learning to become aware of your self-talk and the things that you’re doing. Instead of telling yourself that you can't do something, allow yourself to look forward to the challenges. Repeat some positive statements. ”I am the best,” “I can do it,” I know this” “I shall win “ …etc.. Each day create a small task to stretch beyond your comfort zone. Do something unexpected on purpose to let go of your inhibitions. Achieve small and easy to attain goals to help you feel successful. Don’t depend on external validation.

  • Be Grateful

Another way to stay positive is to take a few minutes each day to reflect on what you’re grateful for. Being grateful can reduce stress hormones in your body by 23%! Never envy. When you’re thankful for what you already have, you appreciate new accomplishments even more. Never compare yourself with others. Feel from the core of your heart that You are Unique. You have your own destiny. Write 5 things daily you are grateful and feel confident to have it.

  • Fake confidence

A cool thing about confidence is that it can be faked. If your fake confidence, not only does your mind begin to believe that you’re confident, other people begin to see you as confident. This, in turn, makes you feel more confident, which in turn makes other people see you as confident. Eventually, this will result in inner confidence. Confidence doesn’t compensate for a lack of skill or hard work, but it helps amplify those qualities to take you further than you’d get without it.

  • Do Eye Contact

Do eye contact when speaking to others Averting your gaze entirely sends a very different message. It can mean that you’re lying, or even that you think you’re better than the person you are talking to. Initiating and keeping eye contact is a quick way to instantly boost how confident you appear to others.

  • Challenge Your Inner Critic

Often, the biggest hurdle to increasing our confidence is that little nagging voice in the back of our heads. “You’re going to fail this.” “The client won’t like your idea “When your brain starts this to you, stop right there. Tell it you’ll do great and the client will love your work. This is more likely if you’ve done your homework. Silencing your inner critic takes a lot of practice. Make a good image of yourself. No harm in indulging self -appreciation at times.

  • Think Yourself as a Brand

Create your own set of values. Think of yourself as a brand. What do you believe in? How do you look at the world What do you want people to think about you, or feel when they see you Regardless of how you answer those questions, make sure your actions align with them?

  • Pay Attention to Your Body Language

Your body language gives away a lot about your true level of confidence. If you’re trying to impress someone, like in an interview, how you carry yourself has a lot to do. Body language is up to 13 times more influential than spoken words! “Don’t slouch!” or, “Stand up straight! Science has discovered several postures that can actually boost your confidence.

  • Find Self-Care that Helps You Relax

When you’re stressed out, you’re not going to feel confident. You should relax like dining out, watching movie with friends or anything you love to do.

  • Be True to Yourself

Going along with what everyone else is doing won’t do anything for your confidence. You need to be yourself to feel truly confident. Admit when you’re wrong, be genuinely interested in people you talk to, and be passionate about what you do.

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