There is an old and famous saying “To err is human, to forgive divine”. This old saying is very, very true even today for all relationships. When two or more than two individuals and groups interact with one another and have a certain amount of trust and expectations are called “in a relationship”. In the process of interaction, mistakes are inevitable which causes anger, frustration to the partner. The ego and self-respect of the partner get hurt. This threatens the continuity of relationships. Here the role of forgiveness comes. Forgiveness is mostly needed in intimate couples — people who love each other and yet struggle to stay together or keep their love alive. There are a lot of factors that make relationships work well. One of the most important keys to a successful, long-term relationship is forgiveness. The act of forgiveness is immensely powerful and humbling.

What is forgiveness?

Psychologists generally define forgiveness as a conscious, deliberate decision to release feelings of resentment or vengeance toward a person or group who has harmed you. Forgiveness is the intentional and voluntary process by which a victim undergoes a change in feelings and attitude regarding an offense, Forgiveness brings the forgiver peace of mind and frees him or her from corrosive anger. It heals him and helps in moving on with his life. At times the forgiver even goes to that stage of thinking positive for the offender.

 Basis of the thought of Forgiveness

In this world nobody is perfect. Everybody is born with some shortcomings. Though love is the basis of all relationships that is not enough. Each of us is hurt, defended, flawed, and inevitably make mistakes. But if you don’t forgive, it will result in a lot of mental chaos, frictions. anger, endless hatred resulting in fight, breakups, separation, divorce. The presence of forgiveness gives a lot of relief and mental peace and helps in the continuity of relationships. This act of forgiveness makes a person more happy, peaceful, matured and divine.

Why Should We Forgive?

  • Forgiveness is one of the most important contributors to a healthy relationship.

  • It helps in the continuity and longevity of a relation.

  • Elevates the level of the forgiver.

  • Plays an important part in nurturing and repairing the relations.

  • Forgiveness plays the role of ointments to wounds.

  • It helps in developing a better understanding between couples and relations.

  • Saves couples from total loss.

  • Couples who practice forgiveness have more ability to compromise or resolve issues.

  • Couples who forgive are happier and healthier than those who hold resentments

  • Gives depth to relations. More a relationship is characterized by kindness and forgiveness, the higher the relationship satisfaction.

Relationships are challenging. It is really hard to forgive and forget but not impossible. This skill you can learn like any other skill. You can consult a couples’ therapist. These experts help people navigate through difficult times in a relationship to get both partners to deal with their conflict in a more positive, healthy manner. But if you are in an abusive, violent relationship instead of forgiving, you may plan to exit that relationship as soon as possible.

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